Fathers Day Reflection
It was really nice to sit back and watch the kids interact with their Dad this Father’s Day. It got me thinking about the special relationship that kids have with their Dads and the importance of this relationship for their development.
So many books have been written about the importance of the interaction between mother and baby, but it’s really important for children to have the interaction that comes from Dad. It’s that ‘rough and tumble’ play and games with cars and trucks that Dads are the best at. I distinctly remember a conversation I had with my husband when our daughter was first born about what he could do. He kept telling me that he didn’t know what to do with her and that it was best that she was with me. I had to keep gently reminding him that he was setting up his relationship with her then and that his interactions were just as important as mine. Sure, I was heavily involved with the feeding, but there were plenty of other things that he could do with her. So with encouragement, he began to interact with her more and it was fantastic for her development. She had exposure to rugby games and car racing as well as more of the gross motor skills and outside play. Now we are proud parents to both a little boy and girl, it’s great to see Dad interact with both of them. It was very interesting when our little girl turned 3 and suddenly became “daddy’s little princess”. She no longer wanted just mummy, but wanted more time and interactions with her Dad.
I must say that I am very proud of my husband (and all other dads) and the role of “dad” that he has embraced and taken on with open arms. We must remind ourselves that this is a special relationship that kids have and one that we should encourage. I hope that everyone had a great Father’s Day.